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April 2011 - Posts - Mentoring Blog

April 2011 - Posts

A Motivational Work About Mentoring

I have held a number of leadership positions throughout my career. As is the case for all leaders, during those opportunities I attempted to inspire, motivate, and otherwise influence the listening audience, I frequently relied upon quotes from famous persons, as well as selected literary passages.

One of the most powerful literary pieces I have ever come across was written by Will Allen Dromgoole, a prolific author and poet born in Murfreesboro, Tennessee, in 1860. During her life, she wrote literally thousands of poems and essays, as well as thirteen books.

Ms. Dromgoole died on September 3, 1934. If that date sounds familiar to you, it may be because it was on that day that our founder, Dr. David B. Steinman, P.E., convened a meeting of the PE societies of Connecticut, New Jersey, New York, and Pennsylvania. It was NSPE’s organizational meeting where the first NSPE officers were elected and the Society’s constitution was adopted. I did not know that fact when I found and began to use one of Ms. Dromgoole’s best known poems, The  Bridgebuilder, as a motivational tool. To me, the coincidence of NSPE’s birth occurring on the day of her death is almost mystical.

Please read this poem from the frame of mind of a mentor. I have always believed that The Bridgebuilder embodied what NSPE is about, but now that I am immersed in the Mentoring function of NSPE, it holds even more vivid meaning for me.

THE BRIDGE BUILDER
by Will Allen Dromgoole

An old man going a lone highway
Came at the evening, cold and gray,
To a chasm vast and wide and steep,
With waters rolling cold and deep.

The old man crossed in the twilight dim,
The sullen stream had no fears for him:
But he turned when safe on the other side,
And built a bridge to span the tide.

"Old man", said a fellow pilgrim near,
"You are wasting your strength with building here.
"Your journey will end with the ending day,
"You never again will pass this way.

"You've crossed the chasm, deep and wide,
"Why build you this bridge at eventide?"
The builder lifted his old gray head.
"Good friend, in the path I have come," he said,

"There followeth after me today
"A youth whose feet must pass this way.
"The chasm that was as naught to me
"To that fair haired youth may a pitfall be;
"He, too, must cross in the twilight dim 
"Good friend, I am building this bridge
for him"

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Does Mentoring Really Work?

If anyone even slightly doubts that each of us can positively affect the life and career of a mentee, then this post should restore a bit of faith. Mentoring can give a mentee more than just new-found knowledge.

One of the members of NSPE’s Mentoring Task Force recently learned that one of his former employees had been promoted to the post of municipal engineer to fill the vacancy resulting from the promotion of his boss to the position of municipal administrator. He called the fellow to congratulate him, but missed him, leaving a voicemail message of congratulations. A few days later, our member received an e-mail from the brand new municipal engineer that provided him with a great deal of inner satisfaction and a reward that he had never sought, but truly appreciated. He has furnished us with a slightly edited version to keep the parties anonymous, but other than that, the words are truly those of a mentee who never forgot the experience and values gained through their relationship. Our member doesn't seek any sort of pat on the back or personal recognition, but he thought that seeing a real-life expression of the value of mentoring might make for a good blog entry. The slightly modified e-mail appears below:

Dear Mentor:

It was great to hear from you. You were the first person to congratulate me outside the municipal staff. I'm sorry I missed your call and that it has taken me a while to get back to you.

I just wanted you to know that this promotion is the latest in my career that all began when I was working for your firm. Who knew then that your advice to get my license would lead here?

Thank you for all your help over the years and your inspiration to be a good engineer. Trying to emulate the way you are as an engineer and person has kept me improving myself both professionally and personally.

I look forward to seeing you at our chapter meetings.

Thanks,

Anonymous PE
Township Engineer
Director of Municipal Services

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Mentoring Through Stories

Everyone loves a good story. From our earliest days as children, to the movie we watched last night, our desire to be entertained and engrossed in a good story has not changed. Why? Because a good story fires our imagination, makes us feel fulfilled, and can even drive initiative and change in our thoughts and behavior.

Stories are also a great way to mentor and be mentored because they can convey deeper meaning and do so in a context that resonates more personally than a lecture or “how-to” listing. Why this is, comes down to the simple fact that a story, told correctly, conveys the mentor’s lesson with action, suspense, drama, and humor. Who doesn’t like to receive the essential elements of truth through humor?

The success of this method of mentoring comes down to delivery. As with any good story, your mentoring version needs to have the basic elements standard to any good yarn:

Setting. When and where does the mentoring element take place? Typically in mentoring, you’ll focus on the time, the place, and the social conditions—when, where and who.

Plot. This is the structure of the story: intro, increasing action, climax, falling action, and then the golden nugget of mentoring knowledge.

Conflict. Without conflict, there is no plot. In our mentoring story, the conflict will come from some problem we solved. Perhaps the problem is about interpersonal skills, continuing education, how we overcame tight deadlines or the nightmare project. In literary terms, the conflict in your story can be cataloged as internal or external; you vs. someone else; you vs. circumstances; you vs. society (the machine); you vs. yourself.

Characters. Your story will have protagonists (you) and antagonists (everyone else).

Point of View. The POV is the angle from which the story is told. In mentoring stories, this is most likely first person. However, stories about the success or failure of others can be relayed for mentoring purposes as well. I’m a strong supporter of learning from others’ successes and failures.

Theme. This is the controlling idea or thought. In mentoring storytelling, you need to select the piece of knowledge you intend to impart, and then build the story off that theme.

I’ve delivered mentoring via stories for years without even thinking about it, and if you’re a mentor you may find that you do as well. Besides the elements listed above, you’re mentoring story needs to be impromptu, personal, and delivered without formalized structure. Otherwise, it’s not a story ... it’s a lecture. And all of us learn more from a good, personal story than a lecture.

“Any event retold from life that would appear to carry a meaning, however small, is a story.”
—Ben Okri

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